For our diverse communities

Tēnā koe and Fakaalofa atu. Men who have experienced sexual abuse, along with their support networks, have shared with us the difficulties they face in coming forward as men. Many expressed that being judged based on the colour of their skin adds another layer of complexity to their struggles.

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Our whānau, which includes those in the rainbow community who identify as Takatapui/Tangata ira tane (Māori), and Pacific's alternative genders, including Fa’afafine (Samoan), Fakaleiti (Tongan), ‘Akava’ine (Cook Islands), Drodrolagi (Fijian), and Mahu (Hawaiian), often feel marginalized.

This sense of exclusion extends to our Tāngata Whaikaha community, who may have impairments and disabilities. For those men grappling with mental illness or disabilities, the challenges are compounded by stigma and a deep sense of disconnection. Does this resonate with you?

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If you’re hesitant, know that the men we spoke with came from diverse backgrounds and made the courageous decision to seek support. Today, they are on a path to healing and wellbeing and want you to understand that you can take that step, too. You are not alone in this journey.

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How can I get my needs met?

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One step at a time is the best approach. You can watch our videos with good information about what else you might need. Then you can get in contact with ACC to get funded counselling support (conditions apply). Ask about seeing a counsellor who has experience working in the rainbow, mental health, or disability sector. It's okay because many services expect to be asked. You can also try this link from Are You Okay about sexuality and disabilities which might also be helpful for you as well. For Pacific support you can contact LeVa. You can also access our COMBO document to get you and your support ready.

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Support people also told us to be surrounded by people who love you and want to support you. The right people in your life can make it easier. That's important for your overall wellness. You can ask a mate or family member to support you to contact ACC if you want.

Also, try Safe to Talk. They are trained specialists who could work with you and find solutions to your needs. They will try and accommodate your as best as possible. You can reach them on 0800 044334 (open 24/7), and it's confidential. You can also ask to have a specific gender call you back.  

Contact us if you have questions or want to give confidential feedback about the service you received from ACC or Safe to Talk. We will do our best to make sure you are heard.